In Taiwan society, it is considered inappropriate if teenagers have boyfriends or girlfriends before they are in college. Young boys and girls are warned that falling in love makes a bad impact on their schoolwork. It’s not worth if they don’t get into a good college because of such a reason.
However, this kind of warning actually makes no sense but affects the young in bad way. Students in junior high senior high shouldn’t be forbid falling in love. Otherwise, they should be encouraged to make friends with opposite genders.
Here are the reasons: first, kids’ bodies become full-grown at teen ages. They will be curious to the other genders naturally. In ancient time, most of the boys and girls are even married in our ages. It’s our society that delays the original marriage period. It’s unmoral that we even keep the teenagers from knowing how to love. Plus, their mentalities don’t grow with their bodies. If they don’t have the right notions of love, they may experience sex too early and make the problem worse. We also heard some unbelievable news from TV. Take a female teacher’s story for example. She’s 32 and never has a boyfriend before. She was cheated by her first man. The man asked her to give her whole backlog. She did. However, the man left her right after she gave him the money. Unfortunately, this is not a single example. Something similar keeps happening in Taiwan society. They are all result from the poor knowledge of how to associate with opposite genders.
Second, the things that the parents and teachers are afraid of are actually cause by themselves. Because of the cautions, teenagers have to find ways to against it. They have boyfriends or girlfriends secretly. They get up late in night to make the phone calls or find excuses to meet each others. In such a situation, can they do well at school? When their secret love is discovered, they can’t avoid facing a family storm. Some even break the relationship to parents. Obviously, we can see that parents and teachers’ ban against natural association of young boys and girls is actually the origin of all the bad results. If the adults change their attitude, things will certainly be better. Children can share their feelings in love with their parents. They can discuss and experience it together. If the young get hurt, parents can soothe them and teach them by their own experiences. Thus, teenagers learn how to love in a healthy way.
Therefore, we should encourage young students to befriend the opposite genders not to forbid it. Students shouldn’t only learn Math, Physics or other subjects at school, but love lessons in lives. How can we ban their learning rights? If you are an adult, please use the positive attitude to face the young’s association. If you are a teenager, don’t afraid of falling in love. Go ahead and learn things from all kinds of genders!